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I have a question for you… What do you really want when it comes to the area of your life called “Women and Dating“? Could you explain it to me if I called you up on the phone in 5 minutes and asked you? In other words, do you really, really know just what it is that you’re looking for?

If you’re like most guys that I talk to, you probably couldn’t tell me. Or if you did tell me, it would be clear that you hadn’t taken any real time to think about it before I asked you.

Now, before I tell you why this is a problem, I have to confess something to you…

It wasn’t very long ago that I used to be in exactly the same boat. I had no idea what I was looking for. It was only after a lot of trial and error, dating crazy women that made my life impossible, and chasing my tail that I finally figured out what it was that I really wanted.

And once I figured it out, I realize that I wasn’t alone.

As it turns out, I think that most guys want what I want when it comes to “women and dating“, but they just haven’t thought about it long enough to be able to say it. I think that what 90% of men are looking for is a great long term relationship with a great woman. Read the rest of this entry →

Guys from PUATraining have just added several more live pick up videos to the PUATraining Vault. Remember, this is the free members area of the site where they give you the best multimedia content, tips, tricks, and more. If you haven’t been for a while, there will be plenty of new stuff for you to see.

Alistair Day Game

One of Alistair’s funniest ever pick-ups!

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Perspective… a group of three girls at a local college bar. The place is raucous and loud, and the girls are completely absorbed in their own group. They have drinks, dance some, and move in tandem. They are indivisible, going to the ladies room together, going to the dancefloor together, even approaching the bar at the same general time.

Then – a flashing smile of as a confident, blond-haired man gaits in. His dress of jeans and a polo shirt doesn’t set him apart, and his hair is nothing special. But as he approaches, he laughs and gives one of the three girls a light, playful pseudo-shove. He engages the whole group, and they swarm on him. Two of the three girls are really quite stunning to look at… the third, not as much.

And that third girl wants to frown and interfere, but our likable blond man keeps engaging her, gives her a hug, takes her by the hand and salsa-spins her once.

And back to engaging the whole group, laughing, smiling, and joking. He directs the group to a mis-mash of barstools that have opened up around a high table, and the laughing and joking continues. The man ruffles the hair of the second prettiest girl, tickles he prettiest, winks at the… less pretty girl. The energy is fantastic.

Abruptly, he turns to girls two and three and says something, then takes the prettiest girl by the hand and leads her up a set of stairs. He moves to a set of couches in a quieter area of the bar and squeezes between two groups into enough space for one and a half people. Then he motions for the girl to sit next to him. She does, and of course they are sitting close together, and within minutes they’re kissing.

Welcome to Lesson of the Vibe Mastery Series, provided to you for free courtesy of MasterTheVibe.com.

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Getting social value for creating attraction in women can come from many sources. However, one source of social value that can work for you 24×7 – whether you’re thinking about it or not – are your looks.

You don’t need to have great looks to be successful with beautiful women at all. After all, social value comes from many sources – having social proof or leading a girl’s peer group for example. And good looks alone won’t get you laid, if that’s your only source of social value.

Still, if you’re serious about maximizing your success with women, you want to fully exploit every avenue of getting social value that you can. And having good looks – specifically, having a muscular, chiseled, formed body – is one of them.

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Few weeks ago Joseph Matthews from ArtOfApproaching.com said something really insightful at the LA Summit. He said:

“Guys aren’t afraid of rejection. We get rejected all the time we ask for a certain dish and a restaurant is out of it, and it’s no big deal. We ask a friend to come out to the movies and they’re not available and it doesn’t bother us. No, what we’re afraid of is judgement – specifically judging ourselves. It’s not so much an attractive woman saying no to you that bothers most men – it’s having to look inside and re-assess who you are. Putting weight on your worth as a man based on how well a woman responds to you.”

Insightful stuff, isn’t it?

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a powerful tool in many areas, from therapy, to sales, to self-improvement. As a powerful tool of influence, many man have asked how it can be applied to seducing women. It can be applied in simple ways with limited effect, or it can be used to make a woman desire you completely. Here is how to use NLP to seduce women.

Positive use of language

A simple but effective use of NLP is to make sure you never use negative language. Saying wasn’t amazing, thinks didn’t go as perfectly as I’d imagined” is so much better to hear than “today was awful, things went terribly”. Just simply using positive words rather than negative words allows you to convey the same information without affecting the mood.

Pacing and leading

If she is speaking negatively, first pace it by agreeing and expanding on it, but then take charge and turn things positive by changing the subject or positively reframing the negative event. Pacing and leading also applies to energy and state. If she is cold with you, don’t be loving with her, instead match her coldness and then slowly lead her into being seductive by slowly becoming seductive yourself. The same applies to if she is tired or bored, pace and then lead.

Mirroring and matching

When people spend a lot of time together, they tend to share mannerisms, reactions, vocabulary, and tone and speed of speech. You can see this with good friends, couples, and relatives. If you match and mirror someone, they will feel a lot more comfortable and relaxed with you and like they have known you longer. Do this by:

• Speaking at a similar speed, and using a similar amount of gestures.
• Feeding back the words they use in conversation.
• Mirroring the way they sit, the amount of eye contact, and the facial expression.

You can get away with a surprising amount of mirroring and matching – they don’t seem to notice!

Anchoring

Anchoring is the process of linking a touch, sound, or visual input to an emotion. When the woman laughs, you can click your fingers, or touch her and it will anchor the emotion to the click or touch. Later you can try to re-trigger the emotion by simply firing the anchor – the touch or click. You can also anchor by playing songs when she is with you that she will later hear and associate to being with you.

Patterns

NLP patterns for seduction involve the use of language to bring out an emotion in the girl that is desirable given the current circumstances. An example of an NLP seduction pattern would be:

“Have you ever just met someone and almost immediately you start to feel incredibly comfortable like you’ve known this person forever and then as you just let the barriers drop and you let them more inside you start to naturally feel a sense of rightness, like this is meant to be”.

For greater effect, the italicised words should be “marked out” by delivering them slightly differently.

NLP is a powerful tool of influence, and to land the girl of your dreams you are going to want to use all the tools at your disposal to maximise your chances. Work on the above techniques and your newfound success with women will surprise and delight you!

Author: Gambler from PUATraining.com

I have a quick trick question for you. That’s right, I said a quick trick question. How can you tell if a woman is interested in you? Answer quickly. So what gives? Why am I asking you a trick question? Simple. Because I’m trying to make you think. I’m sure that, just like me, you’ve read a hundred books and articles that say things like:

“If she tilts her head to one side and strokes her neck, that’s a sign of interest…”

“If she licks her lips in a longing fashion, that means she’s interested in you…”

“If she laughs a lot, makes positive eye contact, and touches you often, then she likes you…”

Duh! I remember when I first read all this stuff. I thought to myself

“Wow, cool! I must have been missing these hints because I didn’t know to look for them. Now I’ll know when a woman is interested in me…”

Well, there was one small problem… The problem is that women display these major interest signals in about 1 of 100 interactions with men… And there was one big problem…

That problem was that none of the damn books I read said a single thing about how to make women give you these signals. In other words, what I realized is that average guys like me who don’t get “approached” by women need to learn not only what to look for, but, more importantly, how to actually create attraction in women so they gave me these signals in the first place.

So let me share with you some ideas on how to make women feel attraction for you… and then I’ll share some ideas on what to look for to tell if a woman is interested. And my ideas will be a wee bit different than the ones you read in your flirting books.

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